Self-Love Archives - Stephanie DelTorchio

Slowing Down In A Fast-Paced World

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It’s an irony of our modern lives that while technology is continually invented to save us time, we use that time to do more and more things, and so our lives are more fast-paced and hectic than ever.

Life moves at such a crazy fast pace today that it seems to pass us by before we can really enjoy it. Weekends go by even faster. No?

You know it doesn’t have to be this way.

Wouldn’t it be great if we started a Reduce Our Hectic Lifestyle Revolution and slow down to enjoy life more? Sign me up. I’ll take a Ladies Medium t-shirt please.

A slower-paced life means we get to enjoy our mornings, instead of rushing off to work or school or wherever in a frenzy. It means taking time to enjoy what we’re doing — to appreciate the sunrise, the smell of coffee, to actually focus on whoever we’re talking to or spending time with — instead of checking our laptop or iPhone before wiping the sleepies from our eyes.

It means shifting to single-tasking rather than multi-tasking — I’m calling this attention deficit focusing. Or why you just might leave home with two different shoes on your feet.

Here’s a few starter suggestions for how to slow life down:

Made For You

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So there. Go LIVE it.

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Get Your Own F*g Pony

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“Mom, can we go to the zoo?” says the five-year-old.

“Tomorrow,” says the mother.

“Mom, can I have a pony?”

“Later.”

“Dad, when can we get a red sports car like Tommy’s dad?”

“Someday.”

Parents fall back on three textbook answers to nagging questions:

“Later,” “Tomorrow,” and “Someday”.

Why?

GET BACK UP

GET BACK UP/positive quote/empowering quote/befat.net/Stephanie DelTorchio/8.25.2016

My tender and fragile EGO had been battered and bruised and hurt. Boo-hoo to me.

I’d tried. And failed. Tripped up. Fallen down.

I stayed on the ground for a while, unable to forgive myself. You can’t fall any further down when you’re face-planted on a concrete floor — the ultimate safety net.

Here’s the thing: I didn’t want to take up full-time residency there. First of all, the view wasn’t great. And it was cold and damp and lonely in the basement.

It took a while to get to a sitting position. And more than a few collective breaths to stop that sucking for air reflex that comes with a hard angry cry.

It had been a long day, and longer night.

FOCUS ON THIS

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Saying that you are “BEING AWESOME TODAY!” is not having your nose up in the air. It’s a reminder that you ARE awesome everyday. ‘Cause sometimes we forget.

Today it feels like I’m rolling a boulder uphill with this project. I’m sure there’s sunshine and rainbows at the top, or the page where I get to type “THE END”.

But today is one of those days where I needed a pep talk…

So out came the trusty Sharpie. I’m right-handed but wrote this with my left. Hold the “oohs” and “aahs” people.

It’s a temporary drawing but a daily quest reminder — to be awesome, not write with your opposite hand.

You with me?

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If I Wanted Your Opinion…

I don't need your two cents/befat.net/quote/Stephanie DelTorchio/8.25.2016

“Keep your two cents…my jar is full.”

Has anybody ever said this to you, or eye-rolled you the equivalent?

Guilty. Not out loud, but the eye-roll is familiar to me.

This is another area in my life that needs an intervention. Or a mouth guard. Or industrial strength duct tape.

I’m sitting having breakfast with a friend in a coffee shop. She begins to unload her problems, at MY invitation. She’s called me to “vent” to a neutral party, someone who will not judge. Whose cone of silence is more legendary than “What Happens In Vegas Stays In Vegas.” Yep, I tell her, I’m your gal. Rant away.

I listen without so much as a half-batting eye.

I’m a stiff wood sounding board. Attentive and focused. Offering up a barely detectable throat clearing, a strategically inserted “ahh”, a consoling “I understand” or an in-your-face “damn straight you’re right”.

It’s Complicated

It's Complicated/So this is my life...and I'm trying to figure it out before it's too late/befat.net/Stephanie DelTorchio/8.23.2016

Maybe you were born with a road map to your path and destiny. And then there’s people like me…the wanderers. Still trying to figure it out.

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Everybody Has A Story

Everybody has a story/To tell the story of your life/befat.net/Stephanie DelTorchio/8.20.2016

Life is filled with lots of little moments that eventually add up to one life. Your life. Your story.

Our ability to sort the wheat from the chaff is difficult, given that, well, it’s our story. It’s very personal. And when we sum up our life every bit matters — from what we’ve heard to what we’ve seen to what we’ve felt. These are the moving parts to our story.

It’s easy to pick out the good times from the bad times, but we store both in our minds. For safe keeping. Maybe to use later.

The positive stuff goes under the “good” column. If we haven’t figured out a way to “let go” or forgive or forget the bad stuff, we stockpile this to perhaps use later as ammunition or revenge or excuses.

All wrapped together, the good and bad experiences become our story. Years of data — wounds, failures, hurts, surprises, awards, broken promises, wins and losses, etc. — support the story we tell.

Be A Joy Warrior

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Today, do not surrender your joy –– not to a person, not to a place, not to a situation.

We must be ardent protectors of our JOY. It is so easily stolen from us if we let our guard down. Refuse to surrender. Be a JOY WARRIOR.

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When Will You Say “Yes”?

positive quote/befat.net/Stephanie-DelTorchio/8.11.2016 While you are wondering about your direction, the rest of us are patiently waiting for you to say “YES!”

Say YES to that inner voice. That gut feeling, the hunch, the spark.

Say YES to new adventures.

Say YES when you normally knee-jerk NO.

Say YES to sharing your talents, your gifts, your time, your money, your PIE! (I love pie)

Say YES to taking a chance on a new love or rekindling an old friendship.

Say YES and show us your inner beauty, however you manifest it outwardly.

Say YES to exploring new places.

Say YES to starting this day with wide-eyed wonder by embracing a new beginning.

Say YES, again and again and again, to the things that make you happy. (You know it’s your sweet spot – no harm hanging out there a while, my friend)

Say YES to everything that sparks the smallest bit of interest and curiosity in you today. Because you never know where it will lead, what doors it may open and whose heart you may touch.

Get on with it. We’re waiting for you to say YES!

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