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Live A Life That Matters
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Masters of Distraction
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I Know Derek
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SPREAD A LITTLE SUNSHINE
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Plaster the walls
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Enjoy the small things
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The mirror doesn’t lie
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Stay with me
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Spread Kindness
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Second Chances

Live A Life That Matters

Live A Life That Matters/positive inspirational quote by Marcus Aurelis/befat.net/Stephanie DelTorchio/9.1.2016

(NOTE: This was sent to me by a friend of this website. What a beautiful and inspirational message — perfectly aligns with the BeF.A.T. mantra. Passing along to you to enjoy and share.)

Live A Life That Matters

Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end.

There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.

All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else.
 
Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.

It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.

Your grudges, resentments, frustrations, and jealousies will finally disappear.

So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans, and to-do lists will expire.

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Masters of Distraction

You didn't start it yesterday/quote/befat.net/stephanie deltorchio/8.31.2016

Let’s face the facts. We can find a zillion ways to distract ourselves from doing the things we need to do today. In the end, who do we hurt by being a Master of Distraction? It’s not even a fair question.

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BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!
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I Know Derek

I Know Derek/Jimmy Buffett Concert #97/befat.net/Stephanie DelTorchio/sdeltorchio@befat.net/8.30.2-16

Derek and his friend Jane.

SPOTLIGHT: As often as possible I want to shine a light on some person, place or organization who epitomizes the Be F.A.T. way of life. Ladies and gentlemen, meet Derek.

Of all the joints…

On a recent summer evening I met Derek, and his beautiful friend, Jane, at a Jimmy Buffett concert. For Parrotheads, (followers of Jimmy Buffett and the Coral Reefer Band), making new friends is Cheeseburger in Paradise nirvana. We know every song by heart, dance with complete strangers and for the better part of the day, congregate in a tropical, if not quite, religious experience.

Turns out Derek, from Canada, is a traveling Parrothead. This concert was Derek’s ninety-seventh, he said, as in 9-7. I was impressed, and then quick to point out that if he’d put the money spent following J.B. and the band in the bank — tickets, travel, lodging, food — assuming a conservative compound interest rate, a sizeable nest-egg would finance his new sailboat. In cash.

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SPREAD A LITTLE SUNSHINE

Be the reason someone smiles today/inspirational quote/befat.net/Stephanie DelTorchio/8.22.2016

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Remember the theme song from the old Mary Tyler Moore Show? “Who can turn the world on with her smile?

Yeah. Be that person. Be the reason someone smiles today.

BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!

Original graphic: Stephanie DelTorchio

Image: Personal photo from Umbria, Italy/July 2016

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Plaster the walls

Hello beautful graphic | Love quotes | Kiindness quotes | befat.net | #befat | finding the awesome in every day

DO NOT ENTER.

NO OUTLET.

PROPER I.D. REQUIRED.

CLOSED.

FOR MEMBERS ONLY.

COMPLAINT DEPARTMENT.

USE CAUTION WHEN ENTERING.

NO SOLICITING.

QUIET AREA.

RESTROOMS FOR PAYING CUSTOMERS.

CASH ONLY.

NO RETURNS.

HELLO BEAUTIFUL. This should be the welcome sign on every building.

BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!

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Enjoy the small things

enjoy the little things | father and child graphic | befat.net

After years of talking about it, my father finally planted a small vegetable garden — a few Roma tomato plants and some native strawberries.

He took tremendous pride in the two planter boxes he made from reclaimed lumber. Each day after work he toiled and watered his small piece of earth with great care.

We hardly paid him any attention when he tried to interest us in the virtues of composting. But bursted into hysterics when he told us pinching back “the suckers” made plants fat.

Our attitudes changed the day he bolted into the kitchen and made a big announcement to the family:

“We have strawberries! Get ready. I’ll be right back!”

We gathered around the kitchen table, wild with anticipation.

My mother washed and dried the largest ceramic bowl she owned. It was old Earthenware; a few chips on the brim with thin pink and blue stripes. Then she instructed one of us to “Get the colander. The big one.”

Small bowls lined in a row where all six kids would get our share of the tastiest, most juicy berries we’d ever eaten. This was Dad’s promise. And he kept his promises.

For weeks we’d heard plans for his bounty’s division: gallons of strawberry jam and night after night of strawberry shortcake for dessert.  Even strawberries and cream — like proper English people, which we were not.

Dad entered the kitchen, with all the suspense of a good mystery. Hands behind his back, he smiled at us.

Why did he make us wait? How could he hold a humongous bucket of strawberries like that? Dad could do anything!

Then from behind his back he slowly brought in front of him…ONE strawberry. The largest, most brilliant colored, perfectly ripened strawberry I’d even seen. It equaled the size of my youngest brother’s fist. I swear it did.

“Isn’t she a beauty?” Dad asked us.

We clapped and agreed it was.

My mother looked around him. For a big bucket. A basket full. Something worthy of her cleaning out the great big bowl.

We’d expected bushels of strawberries yet he was as thrilled by his solo harvest as if it had been a truckload.

“That’s it?” she said.

What may have deflated a weaker man didn’t touch my dad. He sold the story with such excitement that the rest of us joined in without question.

Here’s the thing: He could have eaten it in the garden by himself. Enjoyed the warmth of it, the sweetness all alone, and later told us: It was just one strawberry.

Instead he made a production out of it. Held it up for all of his family to inspect. Expressed thanks to the strawberry as he gently washed and dried the FRUIT of his labor while my mother put away the empty bowl.

Dad placed the strawberry on the cutting board like an offering to the Gods. Then he sharpened his prized fishing knife while we patiently waited. Finally, with great skill he cut the very first berry in EIGHT EQUAL PIECES — one for each kid and one for mom and him.

The teeniest strawberry I’d ever eaten. And the best.

BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!

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The mirror doesn’t lie

Beauty | funny graphic | befat.net | musings and rants on finding the awesome in every day

“Magic mirror, on the wall – who is the fairest one of all?”
Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs

I remember the day my mother said she didn’t recognize her own face. For clarity, she was completely mentally intact. Her issue was one of acceptance.

“When did I get to be an old lady?” she asked no one in particular.

She’d washed her face and looked in the mirror and saw a stranger. Her point being…just where did all the years go?

The woman inside was twenty something. Taunt, lean, fresh-faced and bright-eyed.  Not the gray, sunken and pale reflection that reminded her of great-grandmother Catherine. (Her assessment, not mine)

Mirrors might as well be broken into pieces for the good they do for our self-esteem.

Because what we see is imperfection.

We use mirrors to nit pick and judge the importance of our physical reflection.  Every stray hair in weird places or brown spot or crease makes us wish for a time machine to the past.

But the world sees you in ways the mirror can never reflect — your gifts, talents, skills, personality — the real you.

What we mourn as loss, deterioration, aging…are signs of life.

For all the funny memes and jokes about growing older, we know the truth about what we really see. We just need to make the mirror-head connection.

Lines are smile markers.

Creases are historical evidence of tears divided between happiness and sadness.

Wisdom proclaims itself in graying temples.

You’ve fully ripened like a fine wine. Sweet, deep, full-bodied (oh yeah I said it).

So what if your softening roundness is deposited here and there. It’s where you store your great and varied knowledge — which would look really weird if it were clumped all in one place.

No matter the reflection, the mirror doesn’t lie. The mirror tells us the truth. It says you have lived.

Today, spend time making peace with your reflection. Honor it. Love it. Take care of it.

Tell the reflection that what you see is a mask; a small fraction of your entire being. Yep, it’s changing. Yep, it’s thinner, shapelier days are behind you, literally.

Please know that your inner heart and spirit are where physical flaws go to die because they’re superficial and supersede death.

No one will come to your funeral and say: S/he had a perfectly shaped nose or a enviable jawline.

No, they’ll remember that you were here by how well you used your time and how you made them feel.

Take a good long look in the mirror. Got it?

Now go smash the crap out of it.

BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!

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Stay with me

Don't quit on people who need you / befat.net / inspirational quote / #befat

Don’t quit on people who matter.

They may need to be loved only in our hearts. A safe distance away. To keep them from messing with our heads and getting on our nerves or under our skin.

We know they are hurting and we know we should be the bigger person.

Close our mouths when we have SO much to say. Unfurl our fists when it seems the way out of frustration is to punch the living shit out of something.

But you are the kinder and saner soul in this relationship. That’s why they irk you and they don’t know it (or maybe they do?). That’s why you pray for them. Send them light and rainbows. And draw the hard lines in order to protect yourself.

You’re not a bad person for keeping them away. It’s how you survive and maintain your sanity and live out the day in front of you.

But you can’t give up completely on the people who matter. Even after they’ve taken you down so many times. You find a way to get back up and tangle with them again and again. Because when all the anger, bitterness and contempt is peeled away, you care. Because that hurting person is part of your story.

BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!

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Spread Kindness

Be Inspired to leave a message

I recently stumbled upon The Kindness Rocks Project and fell madly in love with their mission. Be sure to check out their website.

Here is the information direct from their site:

“The Kindness Rocks Project was created to spread inspiration and motivation for unsuspecting recipients through random rocks dropped along the way…

Goal #1: Inspire others through randomly placed rocks along the way…

Goal #2: Recruit every person who stumbles upon it to join in the pursuit of inspiring others through random acts of kindness””

The beach is my go-to happy place to walk, to think, to vent to the ocean and commune with the birds. A random bleached-out clam shell became the inspiration for my first message. I think this will be a fun summer project with my family — create lovely messages on rocks and shells, then leave them behind.

Can I say it again? I LOVE this idea of spreading goodness.

BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!
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Second Chances

Second Chances | befat.net

Maybe you missed it all together.

Or you weren’t in the mood. Not “feeling” it.

Perhaps the timing felt “off”.

Whatever the reason or excuse for not jumping at the chance the first time, sometimes there’s an opportunity for a do-over.

Take the Mulligan.

BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!

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