Appreciating vintage beauty
I’m not old. I’m VINTAGE. There’s a huge difference between the two.
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Original graphic and quote: Stephanie DelTorchio
Did you live it?
There are no bonuses for thinking about how you want to live your life…it only matters that you LIVED it.
You are not accountable to your family, friends or associates for what you chose to do. Or how you choose to spend your time here.
Don’t ask for permission or seek guidance.
Don’t allow someone else to make you feel vulnerable or question the thing you want to do.
For as surely as the Earth rotates on its axis, your goal or desire will be stopped in its tracks by people who really care about you. Well-meaning as they are, unless your tight circle involves like minds, you’ll not be embraced with the comaraderie you seek.
Find kindred spirits who share the same or similar dreams, passions and interests. Chances are good that their friends are (loving) vision squashers too.
Better to keep it quiet.
But live it.
If you want to write. Go write.
If you want to travel. Go travel.
If you want to learn a new language. Go do that.
If you want to hike a mountain. Take a hike!
Divert the naysayers and Debbie Downers with some trivial pursuit, if you must, then run like hell and go do your thing. Even if your time is limited to after the regular day is done or a weekend.
Don’t delay until “someday.”
Go live it.
Just don’t forget to send us postcards written in French from your hiking adventures through the Swiss Alps.
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Original graphic and quote: Stephanie DelTorchio
Enjoy it all on purpose
Have fun with this you guys…
If you want to, print it out. Hang it on your refrigerator or mirror as a daily reminder that this is YOUR life to enjoy. Any way you wish.
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Remember when you were served a favorite dessert as a kid?
Did you lick your fingers to be sure that not one single crumb missed your lips? Yeah, that’s what you need to remember.
Your interests and goals are the dessert of life. Crumbs are bits of deliciousness you don’t ever want to leave behind.
Roadblocks? Guaranteed.
Yes, you’ll need to navigate the insanity in this mad world. But understand that other people’s reactions to what you want to do, don’t belong to you. That’s their baggage of woes.
Let them carry their own crap while you carry on with your life.
Create. Travel. Learn. Teach. Sail. Write. Sing. Cultivate. Experience. Any of it. And all of it.
And ENJOY it, okay?
Savor every last bit.
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Original graphic and quote: Stephanie DelTorchio
Moments that seize us
I adore the quote by Ashley Montagu that says:
“The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It’s not that we seize them, but that they seize us.”
Think about times in your life where something took hold of you and changed you in that moment.
It reminds me of another favorite quotation from the late great poet Maya Angelou:
“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.”
May today be seized upon you. And may your breath be taken away. (All in a good way!)
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Original graphic and quote: Stephanie DelTorchio
Be powerful not pitiful
You can’t be both powerful and pitiful at the same time.
To go forward replace your self-talk. Cancel: “If Only I were…” and replace with: “I Am good enough to…”
Some factors, by your own doing (or undoing!) keep you from your goals, dreams and desires. You need to get real with these and stop using IF ONLY as a crutch.
You have an enormous reserve of gifts and talents to make an incredible impact on the world — even if your world is limited to your own home, neighborhood or circle of friends. Start there.
An example:
IF ONLY I were taller I could be an NBA player. (or WNBA player)
Insert BUZZER SOUND here. Height alone will not guarantee that you’ll get drafted by the Boston Celtics.
Are you also super talented? Been told you’re the next Larry Bird? Driven? Insanely gifted from three-point territory? Have you practiced this craft of basketball? Know the game inside and out?
Still might not get you a green jersey.
Saying “If Only” is the beginning to every excuse that keeps us from delivering our best work — personal and professional.
You don’t get to sulk and moan and grumble that you’re not playing in the NBA because you are not TALL. Many SMALL players make it on an NBA team; plenty of TALL ones don’t. It’s one box to check, that’s all, but not the end-all, be-all.
You are GOOD ENOUGH TO excel in (at least) a hundred different things. Find a few that peak your curiosity. Follow them.
Don’t point at something that’s near impossible and sulk in the corner with your IF ONLY crying towel. Move on to the next thing and the next. Aim for the possibilities.
Give up the WOE IS ME for the WHOA! IT’S ME!
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Original graphic and quote: Stephanie DelTorchio
Begin your journey
Forget the END of your story.
And all the complications of the muddled MIDDLE of your story — the obstacles, antagonists, highs and lows, twists, turns, surprises — there will be many. That’s a promise.
Before you can tell us anything about your story you need to step out and BEGIN your story.
Then come back and tell us everything — every single detail. Beginning, middle and end.
Just make yours a good story worth telling.
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Original graphic: Stephanie DelTorchio
Quote: Laozi philosopher
The mirror doesn’t lie
“Magic mirror, on the wall – who is the fairest one of all?”
Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs
I remember the day my mother said she didn’t recognize her own face. For clarity, she was completely mentally intact. Her issue was one of acceptance.
“When did I get to be an old lady?” she asked no one in particular.
She’d washed her face and looked in the mirror and saw a stranger. Her point being…just where did all the years go?
The woman inside was twenty something. Taunt, lean, fresh-faced and bright-eyed. Not the gray, sunken and pale reflection that reminded her of great-grandmother Catherine. (Her assessment, not mine)
Mirrors might as well be broken into pieces for the good they do for our self-esteem.
Because what we see is imperfection.
We use mirrors to nit pick and judge the importance of our physical reflection. Every stray hair in weird places or brown spot or crease makes us wish for a time machine to the past.
But the world sees you in ways the mirror can never reflect — your gifts, talents, skills, personality — the real you.
What we mourn as loss, deterioration, aging…are signs of life.
For all the funny memes and jokes about growing older, we know the truth about what we really see. We just need to make the mirror-head connection.
Lines are smile markers.
Creases are historical evidence of tears divided between happiness and sadness.
Wisdom proclaims itself in graying temples.
You’ve fully ripened like a fine wine. Sweet, deep, full-bodied (oh yeah I said it).
So what if your softening roundness is deposited here and there. It’s where you store your great and varied knowledge — which would look really weird if it were clumped all in one place.
No matter the reflection, the mirror doesn’t lie. The mirror tells us the truth. It says you have lived.
Today, spend time making peace with your reflection. Honor it. Love it. Take care of it.
Tell the reflection that what you see is a mask; a small fraction of your entire being. Yep, it’s changing. Yep, it’s thinner, shapelier days are behind you, literally.
Please know that your inner heart and spirit are where physical flaws go to die because they’re superficial and supersede death.
No one will come to your funeral and say: S/he had a perfectly shaped nose or a enviable jawline.
No, they’ll remember that you were here by how well you used your time and how you made them feel.
Take a good long look in the mirror. Got it?
Now go smash the crap out of it.
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Original graphic and quote: Stephanie DelTorchio
Don’t blink
This moment could become the best part of your story…
And the reason is because you get to choose what you will do. You get to make all the decisions.
This is how it went for me:
During the summer the neighborhood kids would choose sides to play sandlot baseball (or some other game) in the city park. There were two captains — the popular, strongest, most athletic, BOY — and the line-up of the rest.
You sort of knew your rank before the captains started to pick the best players.
The fat kid. Slow kid. Four-eyed geek guaranteed to whiff. The GIRL…we knew we’d be chosen near the end. You could hear the groans of the captains and their near full roster when the fat kid and me parted ways to opposing teams.
“See you on the bench,” he said.
Lucky to be on any team and never a chance of ever being captain.
As an adult you don’t need to wait to be picked in order to become captain. Whether you become a team of one or a team of many, it’s your vision that becomes the driving creative force. You get to pick the players and create your own team.
Many people are comfortable being “players” because then you don’t need to make any choices or decisions. You follow the captain’s orders. Get a hit or draw a walk — just get on base to advance the vision of the captain. Do that and you’re a player. Do that and you won’t warm the bench.
It’s seducing to watch the captains we admire excel at the thing we want to do. It’s also safe, and boring, okay if your goal isn’t to become a captain some day.
But you don’t want to be a bench warmer or a player.
So, when the inkling of opportunity presents itself, that is the moment to put on your courageous jersey. Decide to choose yourself as captain. Then you get to pick your teammates and call the plays.
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Original graphic and quote: Stephanie DelTorchio
Stay with me
Don’t quit on people who matter.
They may need to be loved only in our hearts. A safe distance away. To keep them from messing with our heads and getting on our nerves or under our skin.
We know they are hurting and we know we should be the bigger person.
Close our mouths when we have SO much to say. Unfurl our fists when it seems the way out of frustration is to punch the living shit out of something.
But you are the kinder and saner soul in this relationship. That’s why they irk you and they don’t know it (or maybe they do?). That’s why you pray for them. Send them light and rainbows. And draw the hard lines in order to protect yourself.
You’re not a bad person for keeping them away. It’s how you survive and maintain your sanity and live out the day in front of you.
But you can’t give up completely on the people who matter. Even after they’ve taken you down so many times. You find a way to get back up and tangle with them again and again. Because when all the anger, bitterness and contempt is peeled away, you care. Because that hurting person is part of your story.
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Original graphic and quote: Stephanie DelTorchio
Second Chances
Maybe you missed it all together.
Or you weren’t in the mood. Not “feeling” it.
Perhaps the timing felt “off”.
Whatever the reason or excuse for not jumping at the chance the first time, sometimes there’s an opportunity for a do-over.
Take the Mulligan.
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Original graphic and quote: Stephanie DelTorchio
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