Rip Off the Band-Aid
This is what a friend of mine told his son after the young man’s beautiful bride packed up two years worth of furniture and wedding gifts and moved in with a new man.
My friend felt it better for his son to fast forward through the heartbreak and disappointment. Get to the place his son would be weeks, months or (yikes) years later, after the wallowing period expired. The time in between (the mourning period) did nothing to “get over it,” he said.
But is the rip-the-Band-Aid approach the best prescription? What of lost or dissolved love, or promising careers that go south, investments that leave one broke, a dream house that falls through the day before the closing?
This advice is a brand of tough love, I guess, and it’s one of those theories that for some people looks good on paper. We need not act based on anyone’s opinion of course, as well-meaning as it may be.
The appropriate amount of time to recover depends on the level of hurt felt. And that’s a very personal barometer.
But it’s prudent not make the resolution and recovery of life’s twists and turns our life’s work.
Doing so only takes away from the potential joy waiting for us.
Perhaps the father’s advice is wise. For the strong-minded and brave it will hurt A LOT. Soon the wound crusts over, dries up and falls off, to reveal a new beginning.
BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!
Original graphic and quote: Stephanie DelTorchio
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