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One Day
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Be the Parent of You
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Have A Frivolous Day
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You’ve Always Had the Power
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Eat Well. Exercise. Die Anyway.
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10 Things Never To Do Again
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All Treats, No Tricks
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Grow Anywhere
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Forgiveness Free Pass
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Preparation Ache

One Day

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One day you are born, and the entire world opens its arms to let you in…

One day you run and jump and play.
One day you sit and sulk and stare.

One day your spirits soar above the clouds.
One day your universe is broken into a million pieces.

One day you open your mind and learn something new and exciting.
One day you shut down; you know everything.

One day you form a hard opinion based on hearsay, innuendo and speculation.
One day your opinion is challenged by facts.

One day you carelessly judge a friend, relative or stranger.
One day you are carelessly persecuted by a friend, relative or stranger.

One day you dismiss someone as insignificant.
One day you are dismissed as trivial.

One day you fall madly in love and forget everyone around you.
One day your love slowly fades away and you are forgotten.

One day you are easily impressed.
One day you are quickly disappointed.

One day you feel lucky.
One day you feel cursed.

One day you feel blessed.
One day you feel targeted.

One day you feel healthy.
One day you feel deathly ill.

One day your mind is sharp and clear.
One day you have trouble remembering.

One day you are happy.
One day you want to curl up in a ball.

One day you’re on top of the world.
One day you are in the pit of despair.

One day you receive a wonderful gift.
One day you are the wonderful gift.

One day your heart is light.
One day your heart aches.

One day you feel free.
One day you feel stuck.

One day you are proud.
One day you are humiliated.

One day you blindly point the finger.
One day you are falsely accused.

One day you feel joy.
One day you feel turmoil.

One day you feel love.
One day you feel loveless.

One day you are strong and invincible.
One day you are weak and vulnerable.

One day you think you’ll live forever.
One day you face the reality of your mortality.

One day you die, and the entire world releases you and lets you go.

So much can happen in one day.

BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!

Awesome ADVENTURE

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Be the Parent of You

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How many times has the “adult” you pointed blame at your (elderly, or deceased) parents for your “adult” life’s shortcomings? (quotes intentional)

Let this one go away. Please. Besides it being in the past, the replay of your tirades and whining is annoying to everyone around you. Every word you utter and thought you circle over and over chips away at your health and happiness.

I mean, c’mon. We’re all grown-ups here. Whose childhood didn’t suck on some level? I didn’t get a brand new bike for Christmas. So what. Should I go back and sue my parents? When I reached high school, I got a job and understood the value of an earned dollar.  I bought a bike which I rode for over 25 years (yeah, it was a nice bike). I treated it like the prized possession it was to me.

Maybe your parents didn’t have the money for a new bike at Christmas. Or have friends to invite your family to their beach house. Perhaps their marriage lacked passion, or partnership and they hid their feelings from you; or you had a single parent who faced their fears of raising you alone.

Do you think your parents’ dreams, aspirations, goals and desires got put on hold a while because they were raising you? Surely your parents felt the pain of their flaws, inadequacies, fears. They too were misunderstood, judged, lonely, rejected, and ridiculed under the noses of their own parents, your dear sweet Granny and Grampy.

So you have this burden. This SOS (Sack of Shit) you’ve carried around since when? Fourth grade? And because why? You didn’t get a friggin’ pony?  You weren’t perched on a pedestal revolving under a white light 24 hours a day?

My parents had six kids and one income; I have three and two incomes. My worry is one-half minus one-half of theirs. I have no idea how they raised six kids into adulthood.

I’ll bet many parents, mine for sure, grappled each day with how to provide a balanced meal and electricity; your ego, however fragile and developing, nary a thought.

It’s a circle of life thing. And each generation tries to do better.

Here are three facts to consider:

You cannot change your childhood.
You cannot change your parents.
You certainly as hell can change your attitude.

And if you are a parent, please rip out the lesson(s) from your own parent’s playbook; the one(s) that sends you off the deep end, make you crazy and angry and grumble and complain.

Because sure as the sun rises and sets, your children will find something to hold a grudge against you someday. And worse of all you’ll be shocked and cry “Foul!” by the allegations.  All you did was try to provide for your children in the best way you could with the tools and knowledge and resources available. And however that is perceived twenty years down the road by your children is none of your business!

Today, forgive your parent(s) for whatever crap they did or did not do. Like it or not they got you here. Today, send a silent blessing to your parent(s) and offer a quick prayer of forgiveness. Get that monkey off your back once and for all.

Shut up. Grow up.

Today, be the parent of you. Nurture yourself. Inspire yourself. Encourage yourself.

Shower yourself with all the love, affection and adoration you didn’t get from them. Support your dreams, goals, desires without censorship; swing for the bleachers on this one. Go after whatever it is that speaks to you. Be to yourself what you wish had been given to you way back when.

Just stop pointing blame and using your parent(s) as the excuse for not making a good life for yourself. It’s stale.

You’re in charge now. Use today as the starting point. Get up. Wash your face. Be grateful for the day. Go get a damn pony if you want. Where your life goes from here is all on you.

Go BeF.A.T.

[Serious note here: If you indeed had parents who were truly abusive, I pray the collective Universe shines brightly upon you and heals the deep wounds that have been the source of your lifelong pain. I can never scratch the surface to begin to understand such betrayal of a parent to a child. Please do your very best to be good to you.]

BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!

Awesome SELF-LOVE
Awesome REWIND

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You’ve Always Had the Power

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Today you might face a struggle. You question your strength to start, or continue. It’s a battle. Uphill. There are obstacles. Some you know are coming but have no idea around which corner you’ll trip and fall, or when.

It’s slow going, or worse, a step backwards. You ask: How long can I keep this up? When will it end? Will it get better?

I know it’s a simple movie line, but it’s incredibly powerful:

“You’ve always had the power,”

A confirmation statement that within you is all the strength, courage, fearlessness, tenacity and resources you need to overcome today.

And that’s a key, my friends. Today. Not yesterday. Not tomorrow. Today.

When you realize that you only need to have the power to get through today, the huge burden you carry is a teeny tiny bit lighter. You don’t have to solve it or resolve it all.

ON THIS DAY, you have the power to make it. To figure out how to get from Point A to Point B in one piece with your sanity intact. You’ve always had the power. Use it.

BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!

Awesome POWER

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Eat Well. Exercise. Die Anyway.

Most days I am good to my body.

In a blender goes some spinach or kale, a clump of parsley, spoonful of avocado, a stalk of celery, filtered water and a scoop of green pea protein powder. I might do a few reps with hand weights to fight the underarm jiggles, or walk the beach, or ride the bike.

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Then there’s the other days. When I eat a chocolate-covered donut or anything fried. When the most exercise I get is throwing some clothes into a washing machine –- not exactly dragging them down to the river and beating them with a stone eh?

I’ll bet our ancestors didn’t count carbs or check their Fitbit or practice intermittent fasting. No…their regular day was packed with physical exercise: up at dawn, milking cows, tilling land, scrubbing clothes (with a stone??), chopping wood, etc. They ate what they grew and raised and slaughtered. Their daily focus was survival.

It’s doubtful I’d survive such a life. I’ve been domesticated, like some prairie animal. Television and magazines bombard me with ads for exercise equipment, creams, lotions, potions, medications to help me do this, or, God forbid, not do that!

I’ve made peace with getting older and my inconsistent eating and exercise patterns. I consider it a privilege to wake up. And I offer up gratitude every day my feet hit the floor. Sagging underarms, drooping lids, gray hairs and all.

It’s my obligation to enjoy my life. And not beat myself for eating half a bag of salty pretzels. And not doing 100 burpees. Tomorrow I’ll eat better and do some squats. Maybe.

Today I’m holding to the mantra I adopted a few years ago:

EAT WELL. EXERCISE. DIE ANYWAY.

It’s going on a t-shirt. Because you can’t have too many t-shirts.

BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!

Awesome Tshirt
Awesome Self-Love

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10 Things Never To Do Again

“Happiness is not a goal; it’s the by-product of a life well lived.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

time suckers 10 things to never do againI got to thinking about the things I really enjoy doing and why I don’t do them more often. For me these things revolve around relationships, travel, food (and yes that includes wine), and writing.

What do you enjoy? Do you find yourself skipping over the fun stuff because there’s just “not enough time”?

Unless you plan or schedule time to do those fun and interesting things, it’s easy to become a proverbial hamster on the wheel. The 24 hour cycle of daily life and minutia: work, cook, clean, meetings, appointments, kids, volunteer, etc. All those tasks fill up most of your days (and nights) and keep you in motion, but lead to a place called Not-Much-Fun-For-Me-Land.

A few years back I took a hard look at how I’d spent the previous few months. I made two lists:

#1 Time Suckers; all the ways I filled my days, and

#2 Things I Never Want to Do Again.

I learned that I’d wasted a lot of time, and pleasurable things happened much less than I realized.

to do list filled

Time Suckers:

  • Work
  • People
  • Volunteer/Committees/Appointments
  • Errands
  • Household tasks (cooking, cleaning, paying bills, etc.)
  • Standing/Waiting in line (for something/somebody)
  • Shopping
  • Watching television
  • Mindless reading
  • Mindless computer/internet surfing/playing
  • And a few other G-rated time suckers I’m embarrassed to list.

Someday…when the Prince of my dreams…

I’m ordinary, not royalty, so until I marry a Prince and inherit his kingdom, this is my life. Some items are necessary of course. And most of those Time Suckers actually bring me joy. But I knew that with a conscious shift in scheduling, the fat could be cut to make more time for the good stuff.

The Time Sucker list was the easy part. Just by lowering my self-imposed housecleaning standards, a fair amount of time opened up. My new motto: There is an acceptable amount of dog hair I can live with.

Just like any fat cutting diet, you will have withdrawal symptoms. I needed to agree with myself that getting rid of Time Suckers made me leaner, i.e. to do the things that really matter.

I hacked away at the list by consolidating tasks and shutting off the television. Then something big happened. I shifted from seeing my life as a fixed list of time sucking To Dos to the creation of a mini-manifesto:

10 Things I Never Want To Do Again

1. Work for someone on the 9 to 5 clock.

There are plenty of employment opportunities that don’t require a gatekeeper or time clock.

2. Work with people who don’t have a passion for the work we share.

Together we can move mountains, or furniture!

3. Work only for the money.

Money brings financial security but I’ve met plenty of miserable wealthy people.

4. Miss an opportunity to be with my family or friends.

A recital, ballgame or a dear friend just passing through town can never be bought back.

5. Excuse an opportunity to help someone.

There’s always someone worse off. We’re on this planet to help each other.

6. Miss the chance to travel.

The view is only so wide from my front porch.

7. Associate with crazy people.

This includes the mean-spirited, egocentric, selfish, angry, gossiping, vengeful, spiteful, unkind, or paranoid. For the record, I’ve been all of them and don’t ever want to be one again.

8. Wait in line or for an appointment longer than required for the intended purpose.

Or make someone wait for me. Unless I got a flat tire on the way, it’s rude, arrogant and thoughtless to be late.

9. Be afraid to try something new.

And do it anyway. Not on a dare, but because I know it might be fun or provide real growth.

10. Take my mental or physical health for granted.

Be mindful that both need constant care and attention.

Writing this kind of list requires you to be a bit selfish, but, it’s your life, right?

Start simple

Listing 10 things you never want to do again is fairly easy. Putting your 10 things into practice is hard. Not everyone is going to be a fan of your list. And because you say “never want to do” doesn’t mean you never will. Let’s call this a lifetime achievement goal in the making.

I’m a big believer in starting small by doing ONE THING. Take a first step without becoming overwhelmed with an exhaustive list. Start with one thing you never want to do again in order to give you back some time to do something that truly makes you happy and adds quality to your life.

Write it down. Stick it on the fridge.

I never want to (THIS ONE THING) again in order to (THIS ONE THING) more often.

In the end, we are all looking to live a happy life, right? Make your lists. Please share at least ONE THING to encourage others to do the same.

Eliminate your Time Suckers to gain the time to do one thing that makes you happy.

BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!

Awesome Life
Awesome Choice

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All Treats, No Tricks

Whether you shut out the lights and pretend you’re not home (Halloween humbug, really? ) or host or attend a Halloween party, here are a few ways to Treat yourself sometime today (or maybe tomorrow!).

  1. Take a long hot bath. Go all in with bubbles or a book or a glass of wine. Here’s 5 reasons why it’s better than chocolate.www.befat.net
  1. Get a massage. Relieve your week’s worth of stress, get the kinks out, and let your mind travel far, far away. More than a good feel! Closeup photo of massage of female back
  1. Take a road trip alone, preferably with the music turned way up. Start by taking a drive around your own city or town. Amazing what you might see when you’re not focused on getting to the market.www.befat.net
  1. Ditch the candy (you’ll just hate yourself in the morning anyway) and have a glass of wine, or coffee (they’re both getting rave health benefit reviews). By the way, chocolate isn’t so terrible. Blogger divinecaroline says it’s good for your hair.

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Chocolate isolated on white background.

If you plan to attend a Halloween Bash, or two, here are some great Halloween Pun Costume ideas. My thinking is if you have to explain the pun, give up: Put on a white sheet and cut out two holes for your eyes.Taco Bell, pun Costume. All Treats, No Tricks. www.befat.netBE F-G AWESOME TODAY!

Sources: Consumer Reports, divinecaroline.com, Travel Soul Therapy, Best Health Magazine/Canada, Prevention.com, Pinterest.

Awesome Celebration
Awesome Self-Love
Awesome Holiday

 

 

Forgiveness Free Pass

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We are taught that when we forgive others we give ourselves the greater gift. And that when we hold on to unforgiveness it’s like ingesting poison hoping the other person will suffer. And that’s bad, and kind of a stupid plan to your being awesome today.

But what about the unforgiveness we hold against ourselves, huh? Aren’t we harder on us than anybody else? Who exactly does that serve? Um, no one.

As human beings we are very good at beating ourselves up for what we did, or didn’t do. It holds us back. We’re grown up smart people and we know this. But we wrap the noose tighter anyway. For years and years. How awful is that?

Lower animal creatures, like the squirrels in my yard, don’t seem too concerned about what they did or didn’t do yesterday. Or that the squirrel down the street muscled in on their territory, or ran off with a slimmer squirrel.

Every day they show up to do their job: to be squirrels. They gather a slew of acorns; shove ‘em in their cheeks until it burdens them enough to unload them in their hiding place.

But I sense no despair or self-loathing as they hunt and gather and unload. In fact, they chirp and chase each other in fun, until something bigger (my dog) comes along and chases them away. I sense that’s all part of the game, a hierarchy of cat and mouse. And the animals get it.

Today, let’s be like squirrels. Gather up all the things you can’t forgive yourself for doing or not doing and unload them in a hiding place.

Hand your FREE PASS over to the Universe.

Say: “I forgive myself for…[Insert a fault, any fault here]” and go outside and play like a squirrel, or bark like a dog.

Awesome Forgiveness

Preparation Ache

www.befat.netEvery day we make a choice of what to wear. Sounds simple. Does everyone have this figured out but me?

In the morning I stare at the closet. Clueless. Don’t like this shirt, this one has a coffee stain, this doesn’t match, the button is loose here, too tight there, too bulky…it’s easy to get overwhelmed even before the sleepies are wiped away.

But this is probably going to be the easiest decision of the day.

Your mother (at least my mother) was right. She called it, “Preparation Ache”. The remedy: figure it out the night before.

In case you thrive on drama and indecision, get two outfits ready. A or B. This or that. Be daring. Make a choice. Go with it.

It’s my new policy.

In fact whenever I come across “basics” that fit well, I’ll buy them in different colors. This helps too. Sorta.

It’s early morning. I chose outfit B. Then rethink it and change into outfit A. I dry my hair, then change back to B and head out the door. I have a few appointments, a trip to the bank, the post office, meet up with someone for coffee late in the afternoon and finally back home…where I hang up my coat.

It’s when I notice my shoe choice. (Almost) the exact same style. One black, one brown.

BE F-G AWESOME TODAY!

Awesome Choice