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We’re All A Bunch Of Newbies With A Beginner’s Mind
11 Motivational Quotes That Will Make You Smile On A Monday
Why Happily Ever After Is Irrational
Meet Your Childhood Self, Then Beat Her To A Pulp
The Power of Desire
Take Advantage Of Your Rebirth
What Happens When You Live Day By Day
10 Famous Inspirational Quotes On Fear
You May Take One Baby Step
Comparing Apples To Oranges

We’re All A Bunch Of Newbies With A Beginner’s Mind

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NOTE: This is the beginning of a new series I’m calling…WHINE WITH BUDDHA: Searching for the twisted path to enlightenment without a map. beginners mind life

Okay, I’m working on the tag line. Leave your suggestions in the comments. beginners mind life

But you get the idea. We’re all a bunch of screw-ups just trying to get by, to find some meaning in day to day life, and make it to the end before we begin again.

Whenever it appears that the sky is falling down my husband and I say to each other: “This, or something better.” It’s a small statement that goes beyond this too shall pass.

When we learned of his late stage cancer those words became our ‘put up or shut up’ bumper sticker. Our corner of the Earth shook and it sure felt like the world would collapse under our feet. We knew what “this” felt like. And we didn’t like it. “Something better” offered strength and hope. A new beginning.

Life is a funny experiment.

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11 Motivational Quotes That Will Make You Smile On A Monday


Maybe it starts for you Sunday night. The beginning of a new week is coming and you’re not quite ready for the circus to begin again. That’s cool.

Here are a few motivational and funny quotes that will get your Monday started off with a smile. Enjoy.

1. Be Brave motivational funny quotes

It’s the old fake it to you make it. Even of you’re a vulnerable and small fish, keep your fear below the surface and put on a good show. Be the shark.

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Why Happily Ever After Is Irrational

happiness-ever-after-quote.jpg Happily ever after is overrated and irrational. Happiness doesn’t come AFTER anything. It’s in the moment of this day. By any measure it’s the only thing you can count on for sure. And it’s all within your reach.

Often happiness is felt at the end of an achievement, say, accepting a diploma, award, climbing a mountain. Or a relationship (hello, Prince Charming.) Sometimes it’s the acquisition of “things” that make us happy — red Ferrari anyone?

These are real moments of happiness, certainly, but the less flashy moments are often the most pure.

A colorful sunset with or without Cabernet. (with)

A summer’s eve breeze against the back of your legs as you walk along the beach.

The small hand of a child enveloped in yours skipping and humming along through freshly mowed grass.

Joy, contentment, a sense of peace and well-being. Happiness.

For you, perhaps happiness is an elusive fantasy. Seemingly the birth right of others but just not you. At least not right now. Maybe you had it once but somewhere it got lost.

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Meet Your Childhood Self, Then Beat Her To A Pulp

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Of course you were clueless. You were a child.


Inexperienced. Green. Wet behind the ears.

Whatever it’s called, that period of life before you woke up and made good choices or drifted into adulthood by default, could be called “survivalhood”.

The road from being a know-nothing child to a disgruntled taxpayer is neither straight nor always pleasant. But there should be a point in life where one breaks free from being completely dependent upon adults and starts living as one. In between is where the lines blur.

How many idiotic decisions could have sent you to Heaven long before your twelfth birthday?

If my mother ever had learned…

I climbed three stories up the side of our elementary school on the drain pipes (across the street from home) — to get to the roof.

Swam out into the harbor, way farther than my abilities, to keep up with the boys just to stay included in their circle.

Experimented in high school and college — sex, drugs, rock ‘n roll, y’all — the thoughts of which sicken my adult stomach.

Even though I could read the sign, I skated on thin ice anyway. (Funny, that reference takes on new meaning the older you get.)

Having a neighbor rat me out would have caused my mother to hand deliver my ass to the Pearly Gates.

It’s a miracle we’ve gotten this far. You with me?

Why childhood. Why?

It’s the means to the end. Nothing but an adolescent game of Survivor, where the “island” is your school, neighborhood and family.

Childhood is a molding period of trial and error, spin the bottle and double dog dares.

We form alliances. Break alliances. Go beyond our comfort and test limits. To keep up. Stay in the group. Hide our fears.

Sometimes childhood memories — no matter how deeply buried — come back to haunt us later in life. They trigger latent issues and sticky points that bug us long past expiration dates.

Can it be the reason we’re skeptical about work situations? Cautious in group settings? Uncomfortable with confrontation? Or (still) afraid…of heights, rodents, locker rooms?

Childhood can be rife of humiliating moments too.

Picked last for gym. Not invited to a birthday party. Teased for mismatched socks.

Growing up can feel like a long slog — a lifelong process — but when I see big people using childhood angst for their adult struggles all I can say is:

Beat the crap out of that child

You’re bigger and better now. You’ve earned the BADASS label because you’ve survived this far, skinned knees and all.

For the sake of this rant, let me be perfectly clear…

Abuse, in any form, isn’t something you’re needing to “get over”. If that’s your childhood story, you have our collective love and blessings for a complete healing. This is for the rest of us. Those whose parents couldn’t afford the latest Keds and now have a friggin’ shoe obsession — vowing never to wear last year’s Prada again. Clear? Good.

And this too shall pass

Nobody said childhood is an easy ride. We hope it’s loving and fun and adventurous.

Having lived through it, you know it comes with bumps, scrapes and bruises.

Luckily, childhood is a phase.

(Most of us) grow up and get to learn to play adult. This ever-changing game comes with its own set of strict and/or arbitrary rules and opponents we’d rather not face — Jail (Monopoly), breaking the Cookie Jar (Chutes & Ladders), You’re Fired or Mid-Life Crisis (Game of LIFE) and many other fun landing spots along the way.

But you’re not a quitter.

You win one round. You lose another. You roll the dice and keep playing.


Because you’re in the big game for the long haul.

Reset the game clock

We don’t get it right the first time. Or the fifth. Or apparently the eighty-fifth.

I realized that my childhood game had morphed into the adult game. I was rolling dice playing with old rules; against long-gone opponents.

This needed to change.

I’d heard about people writing letters to their old self. As in: what would you tell your twenty-year-old self? The thinking being that as a grown-up you know better. With a loving and tender stroke of the pen your mission is to warn your younger self that all of “this childhood stuff” is either:

• For your own good (and sound like your mother)

• Will serve you well down the road (still sounding like your mother)

• Every little thing is gonna be all right (mother channeling Bob Marley)

I went deeper and decided to excavate every little thing that still lived rent-free in my head. And should have been evicted long ago.

Taking names

It was a private letter that started out slow, and very respectful, and organized. Then my pen struggled to keep up with the words leaving my brain. And get this: I had a good childhood. I didn’t vacation to the Alps or drive around town in a Rolls Royce, but I was fed and there was a roof.

My venting wasn’t about my parents. Okay, there was one exception. Something about size 9 ice-skates stuffed with newspaper on my then, size 6 feet. But that was a gratuitous inclusion. Parents deserve mention.

I had issue with my third grade teacher, a track coach and a few fellow students. The letter continued to name a Grant’s store clerk and YMCA swim instructor. Some kid in the college financial aid line. A woman who judged my heritage because my name ended in a vowel. The more names I listed the sadder I became.

Every one of those people had an influence on my childhood and into adulthood. They hid quietly curled up in the corners of my mind making cameo appearances in no particular order. A brief humiliation. Public ridicule. Condescension.

Honestly, I don’t remember thinking of them in my day to day life. But there they were.

As I wrote a name or recalled an incident, the proverbial dam burst.

I gave it to them. Right there on paper.

Playing the end game

The letter was neither a warning nor arm hug to my old self. It was a fuck you to everyone I HAD ALLOWED TO PLAY ON MY ISLAND way past the end of the game.

My today adult self wouldn’t let ANY one of them take that kind of advantage.

But as kid — most of us — shut up and stand up straight. We do our suffering in silence. Especially in the face of “adults”.

Hindsight is the advantage of experience. And growing skin. And a healthier sense of self.

If you’re hanging on to old memories that hold you back from today’s glory, try writing it out. Or record yourself. I did this too because I can talk faster than I can write.

If you do this, be prepared.

When I listened to the recording (days later) I didn’t recognize the voice or the person talking as myself. I felt a little sorry for her. She seemed to have suffered so much in silence for so long.

And then I wanted to beat the crap out of her. Tell her to look around at all that was good in her life. And then let that shit fly away once and for all.

Leaving childhood. Have a nice day.

After getting that ALL OUT, I wrote myself a love note.

For all the challenges and hard times she faced growing up — real and imagined —  but had survived, and left her standing taller. I let her know that every little thing is gonna be alright. That she DID survive failing Geometry, backstabbing teenage girls and falling off the back of Paulie’s bike and all the way down Riggs Street.

That not all kids play nice but many do, and she has them as friends today…20, 30 and 40 years later.

That her first love might have broken her heart but true love found her, and is snoring on the couch. And the truth is that zits reappear during menopause, but she won’t stress over that any more.

Get it all out.

Write a legacy letter

If this idea moves you, go a step further and write a letter to the young people in your life — kids, nieces, nephews, team members, students, grandchildren.

Share with them what you know. Provide guidance and wisdom and encouragement. Be honest in your stories so that someday they don’t grow up and want to beat the crap out of their childhood.


Original graphic: Stephanie DelTorchio







The Power of Desire

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How much are you giving to that thing you’re so intent on doing? If you want it bad enough you’ll make it happen.

There is a BIG difference between having an interest and having the commitment.

Don’t count on someone else or some great force, epiphany or AHA moment to get you anywhere but to the beginning.

Then it’s up to you to stay motivated. Focused. Head strong to the end.

“Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.”

Napoleon Hill

It ain’t gonna be perfect — ever. Use what you have and do what you can. Beg, borrow and steal (ethically, of course).

You can work out the kinks along the way. Being always going forward and keeping at it eventually ingrains itself under your skin too.

Hoping and wishing is internal.

Showing your hard work is external.

It’s proof. And it fuels the motivation you’ll need on the days throwing in the towel seems the best course of action. .

Do your very best. Today. Not a day ahead. Not next week or next year. That’s ALL you can do. No more.

If you’re lucky, your best today might suck six months from now, but only if you’ve stuck it out until then.


Original graphic and quote: Stephanie DelTorchio






Take Advantage Of Your Rebirth

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No matter if you find yourself in the swirl of a firestorm or a particularly “normal” day, do something memorable with it.

Be naughty. Be fun. Be fabulous. Be inspiring. Be encouraging. Be helpful. Be thoughtful. Be amazing.

Take advantage of your rebirth.


Original graphic and quote: Stephanie DelTorchio

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What Happens When You Live Day By Day

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Worry, anxiety, the past and even the future keep you from enjoying this day. How learning to live day by day can improve the quality of your life.

You’re stressed out.


Between personal obligations, work, family, the leaking roof and twenty extra pounds (like, when the hell did THAT happen?), it’s no wonder the day ends in a heap of exhaustion.

The stress is compounded by thinking backwards: to yesterday, last week…childhood anyone? And for good measure let’s toss in stress about tomorrow, next week, Thanksgiving NEXT YEAR at HER house…

You get where we’re going on this one right?

Raise your hand (or glass) if you’d like to learn to live day by day and how not to be stressed by the overwhelming demand from life in general.

“Yeah, but you have NO idea all the shit that’s happened to me or MIGHT be coming down the road,” you say. Wah-wah-wah. Stop whining and consider this:

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10 Famous Inspirational Quotes On Fear

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Fear will keep you alive.

Fear will also keep you from living.

Today, respect fear. It keeps you from putting your hand into the fire. Thanks to fear you will not burn.

Today, also know that the same fear keeps you from

taking a chance,



reaching out,

making decisions,

saying “yes”,

saying “no”,

making the next move,


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You May Take One Baby Step

Quotes to Inspire You to Take Small Simple Steps Each Day

These are big goals you have, no?

We want so much. We want it now. We can see it in our minds complete and shiny and successful.

But before we take the first step toward the big goal, we overthink it. We become overwhelmed by all that needs our attention to make it happen. On schedule. On budget. Before someone else does it.

In effort to get there fast we jump out ahead with a half-baked plan. Leading to rash decisions. Spending time and resources in places our calmer head would not.

Giant steps split pants and pull muscles. Small steps in the right direction will take us to our ultimate goal with everything intact.

It’s entirely possible that the map you’re following is ripped and faded. You think turning right is the goal, and then Universe jerks you left.

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Comparing Apples To Oranges


Irecently enrolled in an online class to grow this website (and the others under my care). Part of the year long course is a private student forum. Here questions are asked and answered. Some information is helpful, but it’s the progress of the other students that brings on my self-doubt.

Many students are way ahead of me.

They’ve created lots of in-depth and interesting content. Secured advertising clients. Designed beautiful websites.

Some are making incredible progress, and posting impressive reader statistics and financial gains to the forum as proof.

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